rationalization, weakening relationships
In a marriage seminar I conducted, a wife mentioned her husband’s frustrating habit of rationalizing when he apologized. She called this his “sorry, but” tendency, because he would admit he was wrong, but then give reasons why he did it. He would say, “Sorry, but I was stressed because of the kid’s screaming.” Or, “Sorry, but you really shouldn’t be that upset.”
BYU ScholarsArchive Citation
Whiting, Jason B., "Excuse Me! How Rationalizing Weakens Relationships" (2016). All Faculty Publications. 2699.
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