Separations, Connections, and Boundaries: Important Knowledge for Married Couples and Their Parents

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The issues that are present in the preceding situations all stem from a common source: the lack of proper familial connections and boundaries. Religion and family science have both agreed on this issue. In Genesis 2:24, the Judeo-Christian religious tradition mentions that a man and woman must separate and establish themselves as a married couple. Wallerstein also states that a person must separate themselves from their family of origin and create a new identity as a married person.1 Neither of these sources indicates that one is to completely cut off the connection with their families of origin. On the contrary, one must separate from their family of origin, connect with their spouse, and forge new connections with their family all in a proper context.