Solving Your "Solvable Problems"
According to researcher John Gottman1, marital conflicts fall into just two categories: solvable and perpetual. Perpetual conflicts show up over and over again. They probably will never disappear from your relationship because they come from fundamental differences in personality: She wants to have a baby but he doesn't want children; he hates clutter but she is a pack-rat; she wants a religious home but he is an atheist.
Northrup, Megan and Duncan, Stephen F., "Solving Your "Solvable Problems"" (2018). Forever Families. 14.